Hard to believe this is even me…

I have not written in a while. I have kind of been in a funk. I have a lot of emotions running through me and I am not sure where they will go and what I will be able to do to control the events that will follow.

I have always prided myself on taking care of myself. I have believed that somehow someway things will work out. I have believed that at the last moment something will come through and I will figure it out.

I am wrong. I am 3 -1/2 weeks away from actually being homeless. I have never thought that life would bring me here , but well here I am.

I have worked since I was 13 years old. I was never one to sit on my butt and do nothing, I was always the one who went out and found a way. Now it has been several years since I have had a real job, one I could count on , one that could count on me.

My daughter’s health has a lot to do with it. She is complicated at best, and she requires a ton of medical intervention. Appointments, surgeries, medications, treatments and so on. In addition to that she needs to be a normal kid, school, fun, life activities. I also have my teenage son home still in homeschooling, and my oldest who is on her own now.

I have tons of medical issues myself, I have tummy troubles. both knees need replacing, high blood pressure, weight issues and I have been fighting with depression and anxiety my entire adult life. With all these issues and my daughter’s issues finding work has been near impossible. I have tried at home jobs on the phone but they require mandatory times or good internet or other issues that I am not able to accomplish, not at lack of trying though. I have tried cashier jobs as they are more flexible timing, but standing for long periods of time cause my knee pain to be intolerable.

I have managed to maintain my residence, by living off my daughter’s SSI which is under 700 a month and my ex-husband was paying child support, which he did not do for the first 15 years after divorce, recently he found himself in jail and the checks stopped coming about 2 months ago. This has forced me to not be able to pay the bills at all , therefore rendering us homeless. My Dad has agreed to let us stay with him while we figure it all out, so at least we will be safe and loved, but it does not change the fact that it screws with my emotions. I have reached out to every organization only to be turned away each and every time.

I find it crazy that in a situation such as mine there is no help available. Housing has had a closed list for 8 years with no chance of getting in for at least 5 more years, I did not ask for my daughter to have all these health issues, nor did I ask her Dad to die from brain cancer, The only thing I could have done better was save years ago when I was working. I did not know where life would take me and I was under the impression that I would find a way.

I find myself fighting my depression with the help of medication but all I really want to do is climb in my bed and stay there for ever. I don’t, I get up I take care of my kids, I take care of meds and appointments. When my daughter is hospitalized I stay with her and go back and forth and check on my son. I make jokes and entertain her and all the kids like I am alive, like I am happy like I am not the mess I feel inside.

I don’t know what the near future will hold for us, but I do know that somehow someway I will find a way to not let it get the best of me.

3 thoughts on “Hard to believe this is even me…

  1. Deb says:

    I am so sorry. It seems like you are going through the worse of times but you are still able to have a laugh with your child. That takes heart. Hang in there. You will find a way to beat this.

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  2. Lisa, you are one of the most amazing people I know!! I am praying that some miracle will spill forth and you will be able to live with less emotional and physical stress. It all seems just SO UNFAIR! But we both know nothing in this life is fair. I am so sorry that you and your family are going through this. This sounds unkind, but if you were not in this country legally you would be eligible for so many services. That is what irks me so much. I have no doubt that the majority of most families want the best for their kids but I would much prefer my tax dollars be used to aid someone like you who wants only to be independent and able to care for her family. I am sending up prayers and positive thoughts! ………PS, came by to see Angel last week on my way out but she was off the floor. Thinking of you guys……….Dee

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    • Thank you so much Miss Dee, we saw your note on the board, we were outside looking for fish in the water and enjoying the beautiful view at the hospital one of the best parts of being stuck there is that view it is peaceful and relaxing. I was joking with Angel last night and I said let’s go down and look at the water and she was like Mom we are home. Which of course I knew but I was just trying to get a laugh. Sadly our country is crazy we help everyone except those who actually need it and it is sad and depressing when I think about it. At least the most important is that Angels health is covered and that alone is worth it’s weight in gold. I know some how something better will come from all of this and if not at least I will learn to accept whatever life has in store for me. xoxo


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